Is Your Sex Drive in Park?

Is Your Sex Drive in Park?

Are you or your partner losing interest in sex? A variety of physiological and psychological factors can impact your libido. Check out these common sex-drive killers.

Stress

You may be the kind of person who does many things well when under stress. But feeling sexy isn't likely to be one of them. Job stress, money troubles, caring for a sick family member, and other stressors can decrease libido. To keep your stress levels in check, learn helpful stress management techniques or seek the advice of a counselor or doctor.

Unresolved Issues

Unresolved relationship problems are one of the most common killers of sex drive. For women in particular, emotional closeness is a major ingredient in sexual desire. Simmering arguments, poor communication, betrayal of trust, and other barriers to intimacy can steer your sex drive off the road.

 Alcohol

A drink or two doesn't always put you in the mood. Alcohol famously makes you feel less inhibited about sex. But it can also numb your sex drive. And even if it doesn't numb your sex drive, inebriation can be a turn-off for your partner. All of this goes for recreational drugs, too.

Too Little Sleep

If your sexual get-up-and-go is gone, maybe you're getting up too early or getting to bed too late. Or maybe you have insomnia or sleep apnea. Whatever it is that's interfering with your sleep, it's also interfering with your sex drive. Too little sleep creates fatigue. Fatigue saps sex drive.

Parenting

Parenting itself doesn't kill sex drive. But it can be hard to find time to be intimate when the kids are under foot. Hire a baby sitter for some time to nurture your relationship. New baby in the home? Try scheduling sex during the baby's nap time.

Medication

Drugs commonly linked to libido loss include:

• Antidepressants
• Blood pressure medications
• Antihistamines
• Oral contraceptives (some studies show a link; others don't)
• Chemotherapy
• Anti-HIV drugs
• Finasteride
• Synthetic progesterone-medroxyprogesterone

Changing to a different medication or different dosage may solve the problem. Other drugs may affect sex drive, too. If your sex drive shifted into park soon after beginning a new medication, talk with your doctor. Never stop taking a medication without consulting your doctor.

 
 Poor Body Image

It's hard to feel sexy if your self-esteem suffers from poor body image. For example, feeling ashamed of being too heavy (even if you're not) will douse your love light. If your partner has these feelings, it can really help to reassure him or her that you still find him/her sexy. And there's a flip side to the equation: Working out not only enhances your self-esteem, but also ups your sex drive.

Obesity

Being overweight or obese is linked to a lack of sexual enjoyment, desire, and difficulties with sexual performance. The reason isn't clear, but may be linked to self-esteem, unsatisfactory relationships, social stigma, and other psychological issues.

Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a different kind of sexual disorder than loss of libido (a medical term for loss of sex drive). But men with ED worry about how they will be able to perform sexually. And that worry can drain their sex drive.

 Low T

Testosterone increases sex drive. As men age, their testosterone levels may decline slightly. Not all men lose the desire for sex when their testosterone levels drop -- but many do. Testosterone is linked to sex drive in women, too. But a woman's hormonal balance is more complex than a man's. It's not clear whether testosterone therapy is as safe and effective in boosting sex drive for women as it is for men.

Depression

It doesn't seem fair. Many antidepressants can lower your sex drive -- and so does depression. But if your sex drive has drooped, it might be a sign that you're depressed. Clinical depression is a serious, but treatable condition.

Menopause

About half of women report reduced sex drive around the time of menopause, even though they believe it important to maintain an active sex life. Menopausal symptoms, such as vaginal dryness and pain during sex, may make sex less comfortable. But the hormonal changes of menopause are only part of the picture. An aging women concerned about her sex drive should also consider the quality of her relationship, her body image and self esteem, medications she is taking, and her physical health.

Too Little Intimacy

Sex without intimacy is a sex-drive killer. Intimacy isn't just a code word for sex. If your sex life is in neutral, try spending more non-sexual intimate time together – alone. Talk, snuggle, trade massages. Learn to express affection without having to have sex. As intimacy builds, so does sex drive.

Benefits and Methods of drinking more water

-Shanta Dhenga 

Do you know the advantages and benefits of drinking more water? Have u ever imagined that you can get fit and healthy body by just following this very simple technique of hydro therapy? If no, then you must go through this article to know the magic healing of water.

We shall now know the benefits of drinking more water and later we can see methods and tips how to drink more water daily.

Instructions:

1. Note 1

   Temperature regulator:

   when we do exercises we loose water in the form of sweat that is how it regulates temperature in our body. Even there wont be extreme temperature fluctuations in our body.
2. Note 2

   Heart attack risk reduced:

   this is revealed by studies performed on a group of people by researches and scientists and proved this fact.
3. Note 3

   It raises body’s metabolism:

   this helps our body to utilize the nutrients to the utmost possible manner and also helps in reducing weight.
4. Note 4

   Toxins and wastes removed:

   Water removes unwanted toxins and wastes from our body in the form of sweat, urine and bodily secretions. So you take more water so get rid of these unnecessary things from your body.
5. Note 5

   Sharpens your brain:

   it helps in increasing more blood supply to brain and thus helps in keeping brain healthy and you must remember this one of the best memory increasing tips.
6. Note 6

   Get healthy and fresh skin:

   it helps in regulating the skin health by improving the blood circulation to it. this also helps in bringing glow to your skin too.
7. Note 7

   Helps in weight control:

   it raises body metabolism and helps in burning calories and by taking more water you can prevent over eating or suppresses appetite thus helping you to control your weight.
8. Note 8

   Also there are lot more advantages like :

   a) It helps in digestion.
   b) Constipation is reduced.
   c) Asthma can be controlled.
   d) Stress can be managed.
   e) Preventing formation of kidney stones (renal calculi)

I think you may get a doubt now on how much the minimum quantity of water that can be taken daily, so for this I tell you that it depends on the persons activity levels , weight and environmental conditions. But most people follow a rule called “8 by 8” where you have to take 8-ounces glasses of water per day (2 quarts, 1.8 liters)

Tips and tricks to drink more water

1. Keep water along with you or near by your working place, this helps you to drink water frequently and even act a reminder too.
2. Instead of drinking plain water, just add lemon or sugar to it which adds taste and makes you drink more.

3.Avoid beverages like alcohol and soft drinks and try to cultivate the best habit of drinking more water.

Twenty never-tried-before tips for sizzling sex

Nothing arouses you more than the warm breath of your partner on your nape - it's the only sound in the room and is very erotic. In no time will you be a ready and willing partner.

3. Do it movie-styleEvery Hollywood movie has one scene where the couple is doing it standing up - against a wall, stairs, behind a door, etc. So what is stopping you from doing it too? Not only will such a quickie have your adrenaline rush up, it will make you agile on your feet! Pick a moment, but don't tell him about it and pounce. A hot, wet kiss and the urgency will have him reacting in a way he's never done before.

4. Fast and furious
Jump into the shower with him for a quick, hot make-out session. Change out of your cotton panties into a lacy thong. You could also cuddle up behind him while he is preparing breakfast. Whisper in his ear a play-by-play of exactly what it is you plan to do to him tonight. Tell him about your hot dream.

5. Prop shop
Anything can set the mood, so why not go right ahead and try one of these out - board games, delicious food in the bedroom and toys for the tub!

6. Shy gal
Some women may be shy during sex and when you ask them what is it that they would like, they may get nervous and feel it is too demanding to state. What you can do is to try broaching the subject with your partner in a different setting, where you can express your desires in a more relaxed way. How about cuddling up to him while watching a sexy scene on TV and whispering if you could try that out! Your partner will love you for it, so don't worry please.

7. Be a wild child
There's something deliciously dangerous about doing it in a non-private area, which could be on the beach or a park, a lift or even a restaurant restroom. You may need to be careful with insects and itchy grass if you are in a park area, and sand is very abrasive so you may want to have a blanket handy. Be prepared for embarrassment if you do have an unwanted visitor. Also please note, there are laws against indecent exposure in public places, so if you care caught, have an explanation ready!

8. Light of your life
Turn off the lights and take a little torch. Guide the glow to areas of your body that you want him to lick or rub. Start with your neck, ears, nipples - go wherever you want him to explore. Even if it's a nonsexual area like your back, he has to pay attention to that area until you stop shining the flashlight on it.

9. Women love their bodies
Women who enjoy sex are comfortable with touching themselves, as that's how they learn about their own bodies, what they like or don't and how they can reach orgasm quickly or slowly depending on their mood. For women, there are other ways of having an orgasm and not just by having sex, and they control their erotic destiny: they know they can come whenever they want, and that makes them more confident and relaxed lovers.

10. Say 'no' to routine
Stash that remote away before you leave for work so that when you return, your partner is unlikely to find it. Have some we-time - talk about your day, walk your pets together and have a leisurely drink. After dinner, serve him a special dessert after the kids go to bed - but tell him that you two must feed each other with one spoon. Add a flirty 'you lose if...' to the game and watch how your evening pattern takes a stimulating change.

11. Old school of thought: Both partners should be equally active in bed
New school of thought: It's absolutely fine to handover all control or take charge, eitherway.

As it is all about sexual satisfaction and pleasure, why don't you decide which way the wind will blow? Your man will love it if you take control! However, it doesn't mean that every time you make love it has to be exactly 50/50 score. Sometimes one of you is just too beat or burned-out to have the energy for a night of vigorous sex, but you can still lie back and have some fun.

12. Work on yourself
Excite yourself before the romp with candles, music and wine as you have a better chance of peaking repeatedly, if you are already aroused. The stronger your sexual energy before someone touches you, the easier it is to have one orgasm and even multiples.

13. Ditch the time slot
Who ever said that you have to have sex only at night? It's a restricting notion, one that will have you feeling tired and dying to hit the pillow. Say Richa, 34, "Our best sex is around seven-thirty, when my husband and I both get home from work. We are so charged that just seeing him still look handsome makes my pulses race. We strip off our clothes and have a steamy session. In fact, we both spend the afternoon looking forward to this time!" Happy hour isn't the only prime time to pounce. The timings could vary, for some it may be only weekend afternoons or but for the others, it's the first thing pre-work. "Seven in the morning is the only time we have to ourselves, so that's when we get it on," says Anjali, 37. "From a sedate once a week to almost every morning, we are the new sexaholics on the block!"

14. Play games
What if your wife asked you if she could rub her face against your bare chest, if she could kiss your nipples and if she could undo your pants? But why would she ask for permission? Be truthful, wouldn't you feel more aroused with each permission you were granting? Madhav agreed and said, "Part of it is hearing what she would do next, and part of it was the idea that I was actually granting her favours, like she wanted it so badly and needed to make me happy too."

15. Eyes open wide
Try not to switch off the light tonight, as you will be turned on by what you see. Don't be self-conscious as both men and women are stimulated by erotic visuals, according to an Archives of Sexual Behavior study. Try keeping the lights on and your eyes open (this also aids communication, as you can see what pleases your partner). Making love in front of mirrors or using video cameras is a variation on the same theme. The effort pays off. Once you begin to appreciate foreplay as an integral part of sexual satisfaction and the stronger marriage that comes with it, will always be just one short step away.

16. Crackle in the kitchen
The bedroom may get boring after a while, so change in location is sure to help. The kitchen slabs may be cold, but who has the time to think about it. Take care to keep sharp objects stashed away.

17. When you have 60 seconds
Try one of these super hot moves, made to fit any schedule!

Plan a sex Saturday: Slip into his shirt pocket a note that says, "Saturday, sex all day. Mobile phones, friends and relatives not invited. Be there in our bedroom."

Try the direct route: Take his hand, place it on your thigh - and then slide it higher, and higher...

18. Light, feathery kisses
A kiss on the hand is not the prerogative of only women, men too love being kissed on their hands. Place the tip of your tongue on the webbed area at the base of his fingers, then slowly slide your way up the side. This move will give him goose bumps because this area is as sensitive as his inner ear. This will drive him completely crazy.

19. Novel love
Be intense, be dramatic, be what you read in romance novels. Take as much time as possible. Be loving about it with a hint of nostalgia and emotion. Chances are both of your will be rejuvenated not only sexually, but emotionally as well.

20. Sleep in the buff
Skin on silk or even fine cotton is a heady combination. Try dropping your inhibitions and step by step to sleeping with no clothes on. You may find sleep difficult as you are not used to it, but trust me, it will lead to sexy dreams, a tantalizing cuddle... and plentiful more.

Why couples' fight in the bedroom ??

-Shanta Dhenga
Hogging the covers is the number one cause of arguments in Britain’s bedrooms, a new study has revealed. The researchers found that one in ten adults would consider leaving their partner because disturbed nights had become such an issue in their relationship. The study found that
snoring was the second most common cause of nighttime squabble, with one in ten couples falling out over it at least twice a week.

Half of the 2,000 adults in a relationship questioned in the survey suffered with a snoring spouse, with 20 percent claiming that they lose two hours of sleep because of it.

More than half said that their husband or boyfriend were to be blamed for snoring.

Bizarrely, one-fifth admitted waking up once a week because of their own heavy breathing.

Other annoying bedroom habits included allowing children to sleep in the marital bed, rolling onto the wrong side of the bed, being touched by freezing cold feet and leaving the lights on to read.

In all, these night-time niggles spark 167 tiffs a year for the average couple.

The survey was commissioned by Premier Inn to tie in with last month’s National Stop Snoring week.

“Our research shows that most of the arguments couples have in the bedroom are down to habits that are easy to resolve as a relationship develops,” the Daily Mail quoted Claire Haigh, Premier Inn spokeswoman, said.

“People suffer from snoring to varying degrees and the research shows it can impact on our day to day lives especially if one person in the relationship is missing out on much needed sleep.

“At Premier Inn we believe everyone deserves a good night’s sleep so we ensure we do all we can to give our guests the best possible night’s sleep,” she added.

6 Things women must learn from men

6 Things women must learn from men

-Shanta Dhenga

Undoubtedly, man and women make two sides of the same coin as they are perfect complements to each other. Yet both sexes are uniquely different. However, there must be a thing or two that one can learn from the other.

So, taking the battle of sexes forward, we allowed men to share things the ladies could learn from them to make life a little more worth living...And what more? Brought in some ladies too, for sharing their piece of mind...

1. Man teaches: Logic Lessons"Don't hate me for pointing this out, but life will be far easier if women understand that everything in life has logic behind it. Men follow their innate logic as they take decisions, while women are absolutely unaware about the mere existence of logic. And this makes it really hard for men to deal with women," says TV actor Mihir Mishra.

Gal talk: "Women possess an innate sense of judgment, which they learn while living life. We do get influenced many a time, but at the same time we have a very 'pace-y logic' that we learn on the way. This usually makes us 'street-smart,' but unfortunately men don't relate to this and end up calling us 'logic-illiterate," says tele star Manini De.

2. Man teaches: Emotions can take a backseat at timesUsually blamed for lacking emotions, TV actor Varun Badola says, "Women must learn that every situation doesn't call for a huge emotional turmoil. Holding back one's sentiments when they are not required won't make the female sex hard-hearted and indifferent, but of course a little rational and practical."

Gal talk: Waving the emotional flag higher, TV actress Rajeshwari Sachdev maintains, "When women use emotions, they put their brains behind each one of their emotions to ensure that they don't hurt people while putting their thoughts forward. I think emotions add meaning to one's life."

3. Man teaches: Everything doesn't call for intensityWomen call it showing that they care, while men tag it as being overtly intense. "Missing breakfast is not such a big deal as women make it to be by reminding us a hundred times that we missed it. Women usually get intense about the smallest of things and situations. If they learn to chill out from men, they'll be able to enjoy life like never before," says tele star Rohit Roy.

Gal talk: Nach Baliye star Tina Kuwajerwala says, "One of the partners has to be over -the-top to make the other one feel wanted in the relationship. It's the intensity in a woman that helps her enrich every relationship in her life with depth and compassion. Else, a woman's home would have been as cold as the road, where no one cares for the other."

4. Man teaches: Gossip, only when neededDespite being official that even men gossip, actor Rahul Dev wants women to learn the art of keeping a tab on gossip sessions from men. "I'm not asking women to stop gossiping. I don't mean that men don't gossip, but what I want women to learn from men is doing a controlled crime. Not every situation calls for a gossip and bitching session," says Dev.

Gal talk: In a mood for some male bashing, says Pratibha Gupta, a Delhi-based-marketing professional, "To gossip or not to gossip is an absolute individual choice. Still, since time immemorial women have been blamed for being gossip mongers. But off late the tables have turned and one can't miss those all-male, coffee counter hush-hush sessions. We are still better than men because we don't feel ashamed of an act that we love to indulge in!"

5. Man teaches: Sense of humourWe thought only women craved for men who possess a great sense of humour! But Mahesh Srikanta, a Mumbai-based-sports producer says, "Women are in desperate need to learn the art of laughing at life from men. Compared to men, women lack a good sense of humour and as a result they fail to enjoy life."

Gal talk: "Have you ever heard a man laughing his guts out at his own self, but women do that with ease. Gatecrash an all women pajama party and you'll know. However if they blame us for being 'bad at humour' because we can't take jokes aimed at our spouses and kids, then I guess, men need to learn a lesson or two from women," points out Madhurima Goswami, a Delhi-based-teacher.

6. Man teaches: To taste realityBlaming women for living in their own dream world most of the times. Kunal Soni, a techie from Delhi, wants women to be more practical about life. "I feel that women tend to have a rather fantasised thinking about almost everything that happens in life, be it a relationship or a marriage. They should learn from men to think practically about life and accept that things can't be eternally hunky dory as per their dreams."

Joins in Krishanu Bhattacharjee, a Mumbai-based, corporate communication manager, "I seriously want women to accept situations realistically. We are tired of manipulating the truth only to make it sound sweeter for their ears. For instance, a question like 'Am I looking fat in this dress?' is a Herculean task for a man to answer as he wants to retain peace in a relationship. If women can learn to accept the truth the way men can, life will become more chilled out."

Gal talk: "I'll blame it on the genes that women possess. They love to get flattered, is it too hard for men to understand that? There's a way to put things across. The art of deception is a trait men ought to learn from women," argues Manini.

8 Top reasons why MEN the cheat

There are reasons galore why men pull wool over the eyes of their wives. Oftentimes, it's out of spite and neglect, while the other times, it's because they feel they will never be caught.

What makes men cheat? Dr Kamal Khurana, relationship counselor, dug through past research on male infidelity, and has even counseled couples and has arrived at the conclusion that most answers are from the wife's point of view. Here, some of his findings:
1. Disturbance in the marriage as the primary reasonWhen there are regular fights at home with his wife, which are left unresolved, a pattern sets in wherein he continues to be unhappy and 'disturbed'. In this kind of a scenario, either he can fight or he can flee. When he looks for an affair, he is looking to flee from dealing with the issues in the marriage, and be comfortable with that 'other person'. It is telling oneself that the problems do not affect anyone and life can continue in a better way with a parallel support.

2. Cheating men report boredom led to the affairSome men may find the routine of a married life to be tedious and dull. These men find it easier to shift dominance or primacy to another relationship and feel the spark outside to be a thrilling option; instead of finding ways of charging their marriage. It becomes present moment for gratification versus the hard job that they will have to do in their marriage to resolve an issue. The extra-marital relationship provides them with a readymade and fresh experience, which is appealing enough to take the risk.

3. Cheating men love to experiment sexuallySex has always been and will always be an integral part of a marriage. While some men are quite content spending the rest of their lives having sex with the same wife for many years, others prefer to experiment more as a need, rather than as an option. They want to sleep with many women, many times, and therefore do not think twice before an extra-marital alliance. It perhaps makes them feel sexually powerful and more adept than others.

4. Cheating men are emotionally dissatisfiedWhen their wives are too busy with their own lives, working or bringing up children or even looking after in-laws and parents, emotionally, men are left high and dry. But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they're appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right. Most men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on the back, which is why their emotional needs are often overlooked. Sometimes the couple may not be compatible so however much the wife may do, the man will always find something to complain about.

It may also happen that the woman he cheats with is his co-worker or boss, someone who praises him, looks up to him, and compliments his efforts. That's another reason why it's so critical that he feel valued at home.

5. Cheating men have a history of EMRSome men, in their childhood, may have witnessed cheating in their parent's marriage. This somewhere gives them a message that it is okay to cheat, even though deep inside they know this is wrong. All of us learn from our parents, so taking the risk is good enough. This acquired learning also happens through cheating resorts taken by elder siblings, neighbours, peer group and everybody who has been impacted. Sometimes as teenagers and young adults, some men have had multiple relationships, these men either intentionally or accidentally end up going back to their ex-girlfriends. The other lot goes back to their past style of having multiple relationships. It is well said, what a mind thinks, achieves. So there are females also who are either consciously or unconsciously looking for such men.

6. Cheating men have wives who cheatMen also take revenge with their cheating wives, by having multiple relationships themselves. Even if their wives are guilty and come accept their extra-marital relationships, some men continue with their tricks. This is mostly done by men who don't want to forgive their spouses.

7. Cheating men think it to be 'divorce'Some men are willfully adulterous and use it as a means for acquiring divorce. The law also considers adultery as a fair ground for the wife to seek a divorce. The man is cheating openly and is in a non-receptive mood, taking the wife's feelings of frustration to an all-time high. Although this percentage is less but it is there.

8. Cheating men need to be neededWhen men feel that they are not needed by their wife anymore, they look out for some other woman, who can understand them and make them feel special. As an obvious outcome of a new relationship, they get that feeling from the other woman. And suddenly when they are showered with attention, which they haven't received in a very long time in their marriage, they toss their hands in the air and get deep into the new hot and happening relationship.