6 Things women must learn from men

6 Things women must learn from men

-Shanta Dhenga

Undoubtedly, man and women make two sides of the same coin as they are perfect complements to each other. Yet both sexes are uniquely different. However, there must be a thing or two that one can learn from the other.

So, taking the battle of sexes forward, we allowed men to share things the ladies could learn from them to make life a little more worth living...And what more? Brought in some ladies too, for sharing their piece of mind...

1. Man teaches: Logic Lessons"Don't hate me for pointing this out, but life will be far easier if women understand that everything in life has logic behind it. Men follow their innate logic as they take decisions, while women are absolutely unaware about the mere existence of logic. And this makes it really hard for men to deal with women," says TV actor Mihir Mishra.

Gal talk: "Women possess an innate sense of judgment, which they learn while living life. We do get influenced many a time, but at the same time we have a very 'pace-y logic' that we learn on the way. This usually makes us 'street-smart,' but unfortunately men don't relate to this and end up calling us 'logic-illiterate," says tele star Manini De.

2. Man teaches: Emotions can take a backseat at timesUsually blamed for lacking emotions, TV actor Varun Badola says, "Women must learn that every situation doesn't call for a huge emotional turmoil. Holding back one's sentiments when they are not required won't make the female sex hard-hearted and indifferent, but of course a little rational and practical."

Gal talk: Waving the emotional flag higher, TV actress Rajeshwari Sachdev maintains, "When women use emotions, they put their brains behind each one of their emotions to ensure that they don't hurt people while putting their thoughts forward. I think emotions add meaning to one's life."

3. Man teaches: Everything doesn't call for intensityWomen call it showing that they care, while men tag it as being overtly intense. "Missing breakfast is not such a big deal as women make it to be by reminding us a hundred times that we missed it. Women usually get intense about the smallest of things and situations. If they learn to chill out from men, they'll be able to enjoy life like never before," says tele star Rohit Roy.

Gal talk: Nach Baliye star Tina Kuwajerwala says, "One of the partners has to be over -the-top to make the other one feel wanted in the relationship. It's the intensity in a woman that helps her enrich every relationship in her life with depth and compassion. Else, a woman's home would have been as cold as the road, where no one cares for the other."

4. Man teaches: Gossip, only when neededDespite being official that even men gossip, actor Rahul Dev wants women to learn the art of keeping a tab on gossip sessions from men. "I'm not asking women to stop gossiping. I don't mean that men don't gossip, but what I want women to learn from men is doing a controlled crime. Not every situation calls for a gossip and bitching session," says Dev.

Gal talk: In a mood for some male bashing, says Pratibha Gupta, a Delhi-based-marketing professional, "To gossip or not to gossip is an absolute individual choice. Still, since time immemorial women have been blamed for being gossip mongers. But off late the tables have turned and one can't miss those all-male, coffee counter hush-hush sessions. We are still better than men because we don't feel ashamed of an act that we love to indulge in!"

5. Man teaches: Sense of humourWe thought only women craved for men who possess a great sense of humour! But Mahesh Srikanta, a Mumbai-based-sports producer says, "Women are in desperate need to learn the art of laughing at life from men. Compared to men, women lack a good sense of humour and as a result they fail to enjoy life."

Gal talk: "Have you ever heard a man laughing his guts out at his own self, but women do that with ease. Gatecrash an all women pajama party and you'll know. However if they blame us for being 'bad at humour' because we can't take jokes aimed at our spouses and kids, then I guess, men need to learn a lesson or two from women," points out Madhurima Goswami, a Delhi-based-teacher.

6. Man teaches: To taste realityBlaming women for living in their own dream world most of the times. Kunal Soni, a techie from Delhi, wants women to be more practical about life. "I feel that women tend to have a rather fantasised thinking about almost everything that happens in life, be it a relationship or a marriage. They should learn from men to think practically about life and accept that things can't be eternally hunky dory as per their dreams."

Joins in Krishanu Bhattacharjee, a Mumbai-based, corporate communication manager, "I seriously want women to accept situations realistically. We are tired of manipulating the truth only to make it sound sweeter for their ears. For instance, a question like 'Am I looking fat in this dress?' is a Herculean task for a man to answer as he wants to retain peace in a relationship. If women can learn to accept the truth the way men can, life will become more chilled out."

Gal talk: "I'll blame it on the genes that women possess. They love to get flattered, is it too hard for men to understand that? There's a way to put things across. The art of deception is a trait men ought to learn from women," argues Manini.

8 Top reasons why MEN the cheat

There are reasons galore why men pull wool over the eyes of their wives. Oftentimes, it's out of spite and neglect, while the other times, it's because they feel they will never be caught.

What makes men cheat? Dr Kamal Khurana, relationship counselor, dug through past research on male infidelity, and has even counseled couples and has arrived at the conclusion that most answers are from the wife's point of view. Here, some of his findings:
1. Disturbance in the marriage as the primary reasonWhen there are regular fights at home with his wife, which are left unresolved, a pattern sets in wherein he continues to be unhappy and 'disturbed'. In this kind of a scenario, either he can fight or he can flee. When he looks for an affair, he is looking to flee from dealing with the issues in the marriage, and be comfortable with that 'other person'. It is telling oneself that the problems do not affect anyone and life can continue in a better way with a parallel support.

2. Cheating men report boredom led to the affairSome men may find the routine of a married life to be tedious and dull. These men find it easier to shift dominance or primacy to another relationship and feel the spark outside to be a thrilling option; instead of finding ways of charging their marriage. It becomes present moment for gratification versus the hard job that they will have to do in their marriage to resolve an issue. The extra-marital relationship provides them with a readymade and fresh experience, which is appealing enough to take the risk.

3. Cheating men love to experiment sexuallySex has always been and will always be an integral part of a marriage. While some men are quite content spending the rest of their lives having sex with the same wife for many years, others prefer to experiment more as a need, rather than as an option. They want to sleep with many women, many times, and therefore do not think twice before an extra-marital alliance. It perhaps makes them feel sexually powerful and more adept than others.

4. Cheating men are emotionally dissatisfiedWhen their wives are too busy with their own lives, working or bringing up children or even looking after in-laws and parents, emotionally, men are left high and dry. But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they're appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right. Most men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on the back, which is why their emotional needs are often overlooked. Sometimes the couple may not be compatible so however much the wife may do, the man will always find something to complain about.

It may also happen that the woman he cheats with is his co-worker or boss, someone who praises him, looks up to him, and compliments his efforts. That's another reason why it's so critical that he feel valued at home.

5. Cheating men have a history of EMRSome men, in their childhood, may have witnessed cheating in their parent's marriage. This somewhere gives them a message that it is okay to cheat, even though deep inside they know this is wrong. All of us learn from our parents, so taking the risk is good enough. This acquired learning also happens through cheating resorts taken by elder siblings, neighbours, peer group and everybody who has been impacted. Sometimes as teenagers and young adults, some men have had multiple relationships, these men either intentionally or accidentally end up going back to their ex-girlfriends. The other lot goes back to their past style of having multiple relationships. It is well said, what a mind thinks, achieves. So there are females also who are either consciously or unconsciously looking for such men.

6. Cheating men have wives who cheatMen also take revenge with their cheating wives, by having multiple relationships themselves. Even if their wives are guilty and come accept their extra-marital relationships, some men continue with their tricks. This is mostly done by men who don't want to forgive their spouses.

7. Cheating men think it to be 'divorce'Some men are willfully adulterous and use it as a means for acquiring divorce. The law also considers adultery as a fair ground for the wife to seek a divorce. The man is cheating openly and is in a non-receptive mood, taking the wife's feelings of frustration to an all-time high. Although this percentage is less but it is there.

8. Cheating men need to be neededWhen men feel that they are not needed by their wife anymore, they look out for some other woman, who can understand them and make them feel special. As an obvious outcome of a new relationship, they get that feeling from the other woman. And suddenly when they are showered with attention, which they haven't received in a very long time in their marriage, they toss their hands in the air and get deep into the new hot and happening relationship.